North Carolina Auto Accident: Recognizing Your Own Anger and Seeing It As a Manifestation of “Needs Not Met”
North Carolina auto accident victims are often extremely angry, underneath the pain, frustration, disappointment and fear. They’re angry because their lives have been thrown out of balance, and this chaos can set off a chain reaction of problems in every sphere of life and work. When accident victims acknowledge these feelings of anger, they typically at first direct them outwards or inwards. You might have had thoughts to the effect of, for instance:
• Anger at the other guy: “What on earth was that guy thinking, talking to himself when he tried to merge into my lane?”
• Anger at the emergency response: “what took those idiots at the fire department so long to respond to our 911 call?”
• Anger at yourself: “I knew I should have done better than to go to that shifty mechanic.”
• Anger at a tangential participant: “If only my boss hadn’t told me to go on that stupid delivery run, none of this would ever have happened.”
This anger is not necessarily good or bad. Indeed, harnessed the right way, anger can be a wonderful clarion call to alert us to our needs that are not being met. It can also help us get the resources we need to get results — to get things done in your lives.
For instance, maybe your anger is subconsciously clueing you into the fact that certain parties might be potentially liable for the auto accident. For instance, maybe you had a “bad feeling” about a mechanic that you went to. By understanding this feeling and following your intuition, you and your attorney might discover that the mechanic had indeed done a poor job adjusting your brakes, and that this poor job ultimately impacted your ability to respond during an emergency maneuver on the road.
Thus, your anger can spark beneficial conversations!
On the other hand, if left unprocessed and misunderstood, anger can actually cause you additional health problems and stress. It can cause you to make non-strategic decisions, such as “blowing your top” at a less than compassionate insurance adjuster who calls during dinner hour, and so forth.
It’s a proverbial double-edged sword.
Dealing with your emotions after a car accident is extremely important. Given that there is so much on your plate already — and so much at stake for your future — you may find it very useful to take advantage of a free case evaluation with the team here at the Law Offices of Michael A. DeMayo.
